Coming out can be both very meaningful and intimidating for people within the LGBTQ+ community. Here are some tips that we have gathered to help guide you through the process.
1.Trust your Timeline
Everyone deserves to come out on their own terms, and this looks different for everyone. People come out at different stages of their life. You can choose who you disclose your identity to, and when you decide to do it. No one should force you to come out when you are not ready. If it feels too soon, give yourself time to process.
2. Do it Your Way
There are many ways to come out. Some options include sending a letter or a message, or an art piece. Others include singing them a song or throwing a party. You can be as creative or as direct as you see fit. You can use different options for different people you are coming out to.
3. Consider Your Outcomes
Some people may be happy for you right off the bat, and some may need more time to understand. It can be hard to predict, but considering the outcome of coming out to someone is important. It can be good to first come out to a person you think will react positively and will not share it without your permission.
4. Find Family
Building a community and creating a Found Family can be very rewarding. Not only are you free to be yourself, but you get to meet new people who may relate to you. Creating a close relationship with Found Family members is beneficial, especially if coming out has affected your relationship with traditional family members.
5. Be Here for You
You have overcome a lot to get here. Take this opportunity to process the emotions that came up throughout this journey. This is where Found Family can come in handy. This is a time for you to heal and grow. Be proud of the strength you showed by accomplishing this!
Definitions:
Coming Out: the process of disclosing or being open regarding one’s gender or sexual identity
Transitioning: someone who is changing their personal expression to match their true gender
Transgender: someone whose gender identity varies from the one they were assigned at birth
Cisgender: someone whose gender identity aligns with the one they were assigned at birth
